Note: I’m taking a break from the regularly scheduled book reviews. They’ll be back next week with my favorite nonfiction book!
You’re not good enough.
I hear it all the time. Every time I fail at something. You’re not good enough. Every time I think about past mistakes. You’re not good enough. Anytime I’m at a social event and no one wants to talk to me. You’re not good enough. When I look in the mirror and see that a strand of hair is out of place. You’re not good enough. Every time I post something on social media. You’re not good enough. Whenever I don’t meet my own ridiculously high standards. You’re not good enough.
You’ll never be good enough. You’re ugly. You’re boring. Nobody likes you. You’re such a loser. You’re so uncool. Nobody cares about you. You’re so weird. No one will ever love you. The world would be better off without you.
These are the voices in my head.
When I was younger, and I didn’t know better, I believed them. Why would voices in my head lie to me? But as I’ve grown older, I’ve learned that these thoughts – these voices – are not the truth. The truth is that I am good enough. I am beautiful. I am interesting. I am unique. I am lovable. I make the world a better place.
I write these thoughts down, and slowly I start to believe them. I write down everything about myself that I love: my kindness, generosity, maturity, intelligence, compassion, inquisitiveness, imagination, and so much more. As I write, I realize these things are true.
How to Change Your Story
Stories are more than just words. Stories tell us who we are. The story you believe can greatly affect the outcome of your life. I could continue to believe the voices that tell me that I’m not good enough, but I choose not to. I choose to believe the story that says that I am good enough, and that I have a positive impact on the world. The voices continue, but I ignore them.
Writing my own story has helped me understand all of the ways in which I make the world a better place. I rescued a wonderful dog who wouldn’t have a home without me. I make kids smile when I teach them and tell them that they’re doing well. I love many people, and I’m here to listen whenever any of my friends are having a bad day.
If you’re like me, and you hear those voices, the ones telling you that you’re not enough, that you’re too fat or too skinny, that you’re unlovable, that nobody cares about you… I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to believe those voices.
Take charge of your story. Write your story down the way YOU want it. Focus on the positive, not what those voices in your head say. List the reasons why you’re lovable. Write down all of the things that you love about yourself. Rewrite your story so you can have a happier life.
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